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1-2-1 Talking and Peer Support for Men in Somerset

Are you NOT FEELING YOUR BEST?  Need support getting back on track?  Or perhaps you've lost PURPOSE OR DIRECTION?
Men's mental health is often overlooked.  The day-to-day worries, fears, concerns and stresses we experience are sometimes not taken as seriously as they should be, despite the fact that men - particularly in middle age - consistently present the highest suicide risk in the UK, older men are increasingly isolated, and young men nowadays struggle to find their role in the world and the job market. 
There are many contributing factors to a mental health crisis - DEPRESSION, GRIEF, HEALTH CONCERNS, RELATIONSHIP BREAKDOWNS, MORTALITY CRISIS, REDUNDANCY OR PROFESSIONAL REGRESSION, LOSS OF PURPOSE OR IDENTITY - but not having someone to talk to should never be one of them.
Whether you just want someone to listen for an hour or two, a mentor to talk things through with, or you want to get to work on your IDEAL SELF with a STRUCTURED SUPPORT JOURNEY for a more goal-oriented objective, get in touch for your FREE ONLINE FACE-TO-FACE CONSULTATION. 

MATT VIDLER has many years of peer support and mentoring experience, working with young people and adults experiencing a variety of crises and life issues. 

He aims to provide an open-minded support service, which may just as likely offer practical life-coaching, conventional therapeutic talking/listening and person-centred peer-support as recommend relaxation, mindfulness and zen practices.

He is qualified to NFCE CACHE Level 3 in Counselling Skills and Level 4 certified in Advanced Counselling Skills, Life Coaching and Mindfulness for Stress, as well as being a certified NLP practitioner.  He also holds a Level 5 Diploma in Social Policy and Criminology.  Matt is fully therapy insured and DBS certified, and is continuously updating his qualifications and certification.

Contact Matt using the completely confidential form to book your free online consultation.  Self-referred clients only.

Find Matt on Findatherapy.org.
Name E-mail Which town do you live in (or are you staying in, if only temporarily)? Would you like to tell me more about how you're feeling, or the sort of support you think you might need - e.g., emotional support, life coaching, low mood or just someone to talk to? Submit

"From Self-Awareness to Self-Actualization"

A supported 6-step journey to finding your way back.
Have you lost focus in life, purpose or direction?  If so, Matt offers a 6-step, 6-session, person-centred support plan, focusing on ACTUAL SELF vs. the IDEAL SELF, and finding your way from one to the other. 
For full information, click here to download the .PDF brochure.

STEP 1: "Where am I now?"

  • Current life circumstances

  • Emotional wellbeing

  • Relationships

  • Work and purpose

  • Strengths and challenges

Outcome:
A clear understanding of your Present Self.

STEP 2: "Who do I want to become?"

  • Values

  • Character strengths

  • Aspirations

  • Legacy

  • What success means to you personally

Outcome:
A realistic and meaningful vision of your Ideal Self.

STEP 3: "What's holding me back?"

  • Limiting beliefs

  • Self-doubt

  • Fears

  • External expectations

Outcome:
An awareness of barriers to your growth.

STEP 4: Build Self-Acceptance

  • Self-worth

  • Self-compassion

  • Authenticity

  • Personal strengths

Outcome:
A secure foundation from which to change.

STEP 5: Align with Values

  • Relationships

  • Boundaries

  • Communication

  • Health and wellbeing

  • Work-life balance

Outcome:
Bringing life closer into alignment with your personal values.

STEP 6: Activate Your Plan

  • Long-term goals

  • Personal development priorities

  • Meaning and purpose

  • Ongoing growth commitments

Outcome:
A personalised self-actualization roadmap to move forward with.
Please note that the 6 steps may not correlate directly to the 6 sessions, and that extra sessions may be recommended if they are considered necessary.  
The 6 x 50-minute sessions are charged at the usual price of 5 if they were booked separately.  A free 6-month catch-up is also included in the programme.
To get started, use the form above to BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION.

Who is the service aimed at?

Matt works with men of all ages and backgrounds, over the age of 18, with a particular focus on talking therapy, midlife, loneliness, mentoring young people, and issues around direction and purpose.  The service is not aimed at men who require specialized counselling such as CBT or psychotherapy, but rather those who are simply overwhelmed or struggling with the pressures of life and expectations that men face, whether placed on them by themselves or others.

What fields is Matt qualified in?

Because Matt is formally qualified up to Level 3 in Counselling Skills, he can only offer listening/talking and alternative therapies, life coaching and peer support, both practical and emotional, and not formal counselling.  For this reason, he is able to offer a holistic service which may recommend more tailored and flexible therapeutic methods than formal counselling coping strategies.  He most closely aligns with the person-centred humanistic approach, and is unable to provide CBT, addiction or trauma therapy, or psychoanalytical service; if you require any of these, Matt will recommend your referral to another counsellor.

If you are in any doubt about Matt's suitability to help you, please feel free to get in touch.

Where do the sessions take place?

Matt much prefers meeting face-to-face in person, at his private and comfortable practice in Cowan House, Ellenborough Park, Weston-super-Mare, Somerset.  However, for the initial appraisal, and if you cannot attend in person, sessions can be conducted online.

How much does Matt charge for a session?

A 50-minute session costs £40, whether in-person or online, though the initial 20-minute consultation is free.  However, if you choose to book for the 6-session, 6-step program in advance, you will only be charged for 5 sessions (£200 instead of £240).

How many sessions do I need to attend?

There is no minimum and no maximum; you can come along for a single session, if you just want someone to talk to in the moment, or book blocks of sessions in advance.  If you don't feel ready to give up, we can keep going for as long as is needed.

For enrolment onto the 6-step support plan, it is necessary to pay for all 6 sessions (for the price of 5) in advance, following your free online consultation.

Is the service discreet and confidential?

Matt is strongly bound by ethical practice, and fully committed to the Data Protection Act 1998 and the Equality Act 2010.  Your attendance at sessions is discreet and completely confidential.  Any personal information, including any session notes, are stored safely and securely, and only retained for as long as is necessary.

What if I still need support after the planned sessions?

You will never be simply left alone to cope after the planned sessions have concluded; Matt will always discuss with you, in plenty of time, next steps following support, which may include a plan for you to take forward.  If you need further support, Matt will discuss continuing the service, or referral to a more appropriate alternative.

How can I get started?

Use the form above to book your free appraisal, and Matt will be in touch soon.  At the appraisal, he will talk through your needs or concerns, and suggest how he feels you should proceed.  If Matt's service is not suitable, or you don't find each other a good fit, he may suggest more appropriately-qualified alternatives.